Sometimes I think that unschooling is more in the minds of the parent than it is in the minds of the kids. We are the ones that need unschooling, they just do it (unless they have been in school for a longer period of time).
How is that? Well my kids they don’t distinguish between weekdays or weekends – except that daddy doesn’t work on weekends. They don’t know the difference between holiday and “school year” – they learn what they need to learn, when they need to learn it. They play, thus they learn.
I’ve had this thing … I don’t know why, but my son needed to learn to read a 4 like I did – otherwise he wouldn’t be as intelligent as I am. Silly really – because my sisters didn’t learn to read at 4 – my eldest sister didn’t learn how to read before she was 8 or something and she is definately as intelligent as I am. Maybe not a scholar like me, but who cares – isn’t that the reason I don’t send my kids to school? Because I want them to learn other values? I mean I went to school for something like 20 years – in the end I was all I knew how to do… I was really good at it. Being in a workplace however – not so much…
So now I’ve let go of the whole “school” thing. We do projects at home, and I let the kids show the lead. And otherwise, we just lead our lives together: Go to the market, cook, clean the house (once in a while, fortunately we don’t have to do it too much because we have hired help a few times every week). We go to the beach, to the playground etc.
Then sometimes I worry – you know all the wise people say that too much computer is not good for kids – they miss out on exercise, or that they can learn nothing from TV. And I think – but my kids watch too much TV and play too many computer games – ohh O! I’m a “bad mom”.
I had that feeling yesterday, because really we had done no schooling all week – but as my son snuggled up to me while playing “DragonVale” I started thinking about what we’d done that day: We went to the optician to get his glasses repaired, we went to the market to buy kale (and strawberries) for sauerkraut, then to the playground. Afterwards we went home to cook burgers. We made homemade buns, burgers and guacamole. Even though I had planned for days to make burgers on Friday – I’d forgotten to buy ketchup and mayo, and I didn’t have any greaseproof paper to bake the buns on – but the kids didn’t care: They loved our Mexican burgers, and the buns were perfectly baked on our pizza stone. Afterwards we had a siesta and watched TV for a couple of hours, then I made sauerkraut, then we played DragonVale together the 3 of us, then had dinner and went to bed. All in all a good day of doing absolutely “nothing”. When I tucked in the kids last night Lucas said “thank you for the best day EVER!”
This morning right after breakfast Lucas got up and said “I think I need to do some schoolwork” – turned on the iPad and opened one of his school folders (which I made in a fit of wanting to control which games he played when… ) and started using “learning games”: Reading and writing games that he has not touched in months (maybe because I in that control phase of mine said that those were the only game he could play during “school hours”). On a Saturday! It’s true what they say – we are never not learning 🙂